Anger is a very primitive emotion and is basically a counterproductive experience in most
situations. When angry, a person might be more effective in a physical fight or
might be able to achieve some feat of physical strength, but situations where
anger is helpful in modern day life are few and far between.
Basically, generally, anger is counter-productive. Anger -- even mild
anger or irritability -- causes a lessening of one's smarts, an aging of one's
skin, a disruption of one's digestion and a raising of one's blood pressure and
risk of heart attack and stroke.
The underpinnings of anger can be very complex. Some individual simply
have a chemistry problem that makes them feel chronically irritable, more
likely to explode and be angry. Some people develop a tendency to be angry like
others develop a tendency to hunger for narcotics -- it feels good in spite of
problems that come later. Some people learn to savor, collect and swim in anger
because of role models. It is with respect to many of the other aspects and underpinnings
of anger that hypnosis -- via hypnotherapist or psychotherapist -- can be
helpful. Anger management is possible
Things on the mind and negativity as underpinnings of anger. Anger is
often fostered by a combination of a) too many things on one's mind and/or b) a
vague to blatant sense of hopelessness and negativity about one's abilities,
one's prospects for the future and/or one's self. It is with respect to these
and perhaps a few other issues that anger problems can be helped through the
use of hypnosis. Having too many issues
on one's mind is a significant contributor to anger and is the most common
underpinning of irritability in individuals who are not simply chemically
challenged (those whose genes underlie the challenge of chronically feeling
irritable).
Too many things on one's mind increases the likelihood of anger. Anger
is best dealt with by simply avoiding it. One of the ways anger is avoided
before happening is by assessing a situation from alternative perspectives and
finding one that seems to make things okay. For example, if your neighbor has
company and they leave a mess that blows into your yard, you might initially be
angry but then you re-evaluate the situation, reminding yourself that you have
had company that left messes that may have blown into his yard or that it's
easy to become overloaded and miss things when having company visit. It is the
capacity to think things through from other perspectives that keeps one from
seeming irritable and angry. It is the lack of capacity to think things through
-- because of too many things on one's mind -- that makes one irritable and
quick to anger.
Just because you think you dropped thinking about something, doesn't mean
you're not still thinking about it. It's easy to think you are only
thinking about one thing at a time, but actually most people can think about
several things at once -- even though they may not realize it. An example of
how one can be thinking without realizing is the occasion when you are looking
for something or trying to remember something and you rack your mind and
finally give up. And then later on the answer pops into your consciousness as a
revelation. Such occurrences are not examples of messages being beamed into your
brain from outer space. Such occurrences are examples of your mind sustaining a
thought, a questioning, a searching for an answer, long after you thought you
stopped thinking on the subject. When you have concerns, worries, fears on
your mind, your are more likely to be angry. The number one way to reduce anger
is by resolving issues and thus reducing the numbers of concerns on one's mind
taking up space.
Negativity leads to pessimism and poor perspectives which leads to anger.
Another general area of anger prevention is attitude -- positive attitude.
Positive attitude reduces anger. Negative attitude increases anger. Having a
positive attitude is something of an art form. It usually takes a sort of
over-riding belief that everything will be okay in the long run. You can call
this faith or hope or resignation that things are going to be tough but also
fun and at the end one dies -- inevitably and inescapably and acceptably -- acceptable
because either there will be nothing after death and thus no disappointment or
fear, or there will be something after death and thus maybe there has been some
sort of purpose to the hard times and the ups and downs of life.
Accessing inner levels of thinking where attitudes, fears and anger seem to
hide away from easily changing or mediating. Attitudes, anger and fear
are not easily changed. They have foundations in the deeper levels of thinking
not usually readily accessed by what is called "conscious" thought.
These deeper levels are usually called "unconscious" levels but the
term means unconscious only in the sense of being able to "hear"
yourself thinking there. The thinking that happens there is
"thinking" -- at least much of it is -- but one doesn't feel one's
self doing it. Interestingly, though, and luckily, there is a means to not only
access those deeper levels of thinking, hypnosis provides a means to speak to
those parts of the mind. It is not possible to alter who a person is with
hypnosis but it is possible to convince a person of the benefit of making
changes that are logical and practical and in the person's best interest.
Hypnosis can help reduce or pretty much eliminate anger by fostering a sense of hopeful resignation about life and about one's self and self worth. Hypnosis can help calm and relax in general and can help resolve issues and fears about the unknowns of the future. Hypnosis can help resolve some of those larger, tougher issues that linger, taking space in one's mind. Hypnosis can interrupt cyclical thinking and negativity, providing a realistic, practical sense of empowerment, resignation to what cannot be changed, resilience and hope.
